This week I
walked into a conversation concerning a husband and wife. The husband is white and the wife is
Asian. As the other people were visiting
about this couple one of the people said, “I wonder if she is a mail order
bride.” Even though the person they were
talking about was not there to hear the comment it still made me feel very
uncomfortable. I just shook my head no
and at that time exited the conversation. I felt the comment was inappropriate and I did
not want to continue to be a part of the conversation.
Another example
of a microaggression that I have observed before is when I have been out to
dinner with a couple and the husband said to the wife “Are you really going to
eat that?” The wife was a little over
weight and was going to eat a certain type of dessert. The wife decided against eating the dessert
when her husband made that comment. It
made me angry to hear him say this to his wife.
If I was his wife I would have then ate two desserts!
This week I
realized that even if the person you are saying something about is not there to
hear the remark it can still be offensive to the people who are there and hear
the remark. These experiences were a
good reminder to remember to not judge other people and that your words greatly
impact the people around you.